We hate them, we punish our kids for telling them, we leave relationships because of them and yet, we lie to ourselves all the time, AND TOLERATE IT!
We look in the mirror and say things like, you're ugly or fat. We think thoughts throughout the day...I'll never be successful, pretty, strong, a good parent or able to follow the plan or do business this way and so many other lies. Our self talk is the loudest, most consistent voice we hear everyday. Why are we repeating the self sabotaging mantras? Better yet, how do we stop?
Most of us realize that our self talk, errors on the side of negative and even when we TRY to 'think positive' and repeat our newly written down goals and encouraging words we fail to be consistent and end up reinforcing our negative beliefs.
Just 'thinking positive' and forcing those newly found rainbow and butterfly statements out doesn't work, because our brain doesn't believe it!
Looking in the mirror and saying you are beautiful, you are perfect when we see that extra weight that we're carrying is not something we can believe. BUT, looking in the mirror and saying I love you, just the way you are and I am going to take better care of you....Now THAT is something you can believe! Sometimes just starting with, 'I have a body' and remembering what that body allows us to do each day is all we can muster, but its a start.
Another way we lie is by making statements like, 'the whole day is ruined', because we didn't get enough sleep, because the dogs were unruly (or the kids), or because you couldn't stick to your planned day or.... Get ahold of these thoughts and ask yourself, IS THAT TRUE? Is your day really ruined? The answer is a resounding NO. It is only your thoughts about that situation that are ruining your day.
Choosing what to think and thinking things that your brain can believe will create the biggest changes in your life.
So instead of just trying to think positive and say nice things, become aware of your actual thoughts and ask yourself, IS THAT TRUE? Really true!?
What do you want to think instead? Is there a TRUTH within, that will propel you in the direction of positive change and self talk that your brain can actually believe?
It is simple, but not easy. Our primitive brains are programed for the negative. We can, with a few new tools, really reprogram our self talk and get control over our lives.
Contact me to get started on your path.