Self Esteem as defined by merriam-webster is-a FEELING of having respect for yourself and your abilities.
We get our S.E. (self esteem) from 2 areas;
1. what we actually do. (ACTIONS)
2. what we make of those experiences. (THOUGHTS)
Our actions are a result of our feelings. We FEEL a certain way and that causes us to ACT in a certain way. Understanding that our FEELINGS are a result of our THOUGHTS, we can then increase our self esteem by changing our thinking.
Other people do not control how your feeling.
This is not 'positive thinking', that is bullshit. This is about choosing thoughts that serve us. You get to decide how you think and feel about yourself. Your opinion of you is not established by anyone but you. Your parent, your partner, your kids, your spouse, your friends... no one controls how you feel. If you blame another- you disempower yourself completely. That opinion comes from thoughts that you are having. How you choose to think about yourself is going to determine how you feel about yourself.
ACCEPTING that it is your responsibility for how you feel is the beginning. Start with the fact that you are amazing just because you are a human being on the planet. You are worthy. Learn to accept that humans (you) have both good and bad within TRULY accepting that we are both and finding peace with that lets us relax into being human and able to become responsible for our own feelings.
The only way to FEEL better and build a better S.E. is by choosing what thoughts to think about our experiences. When you learn to manage your brain and take your power back by doing this you get to choose how to FEEL in every area of life which empowers you and builds your Self Esteem; A FEELING OF RESPECT FOR ONESELF AND YOUR ABILITIES.
I can teach you how to do this. Contact me for more information.